I’ve been teaching kids (and they’ve been teaching me) for over 25 years. It’s never been easy but it’s always been rewarding. School life is complex for everyone but it doesn’t have to be complicated.
Tips For Parents:
1) Don’t try to solve all of your child’s problems at home or at school. Kids need to be able to sort through their issues themselves sometimes in order to be capable of doing the same in a world that is dynamic and unrelenting.
2) Have high expectations of your kids but be realistic. Not everyone is built for elite level academics, athletics, or performance. And, that’s okay.
3) Teachers, like parents, try their best. The style may not look like you imagine it should but at the heart is a deep caring for each child.
4) Keep engaged in what your kids are doing and how they are feeling at school. Sometimes, the best remedy is a non-judgmental ear with open arms.
5) Try your best not to imprint your childhood insecurities and life struggles on your kids. Children shouldn’t be burdened with carrying the baggage of their parents. That weight does significant damage.
Tips for Teachers:
1) Most kids are not wired to like school. Most people are not wired to like work. We’re all similar. Keep that in mind when you plan for young minds.
2) The most effective role models are those who role model. Talk is ineffective if it isn’t accompanied by action.
3) Treat all of your students with the same expectations. Imagine your parents favouring your siblings over you. It doesn’t feel fair, does it?
4) Get a life. The year is a marathon not a sprint. If you don’t find time for yourself in the craziness, you will break down before the finish line.
5) You are privileged with one of the greatest jobs – influencing young hearts and minds. Don’t ever take it for granted.
Tips for Students:
1) Remember that the adults in your life are only trying to help you. We may not always make the best decisions but we are trying to help prepare you with the skills needed for a very complex life ahead.
2) If you think the adults in your life are annoying…wait until you have to take care of yourself in a world where the people around you will not tolerate your mistakes.
3) You are never alone. There are always others who are feeling like you and there are always people who will listen to you if you need help. But, you will need to speak up.
4) Put the phone down and get involved. School life is much more fun when you spend time doing extra-curricular activities with other people.
5) Your job is to be a student. Your parents’ job is to take care of you. Your teachers’ job is to teach you. School = future. Simple math.
It definitely takes a village to raise a child. The villagers sometimes squabble, sneer, and point fingers at one another but they need to remember that ultimately they all have the same focus: the child.
